Unhealthy Relationships

My coworker recently just got married. At first I was excited and happy for her, because they’ve been engaged for over 5 years.

However, for the past year I’ve known her, it’s been nothing but her venting about things she doesn’t like he does. For example, he LOVES to go out with his coworkers (people he already sees 12-14 hours a day) when he’s off work. Which cut into their quality time. He’d rather drag her to the bar WITH him and his friends so they could all hang out. On their honeymoon, they hung out with HIS friends. It seems he has a dependency on his friends.  She’s expressed how she feels to him, but it falls on deaf ears.

I feel bad for her because my boyfriend is so thoughtful and treates me how she wants to be treated by her husband. Yikes.

Before she went through with her marriage, another coworker and I were discussing how afraid we were for her, because he puts in more effort than he does when it comes to the relationship. Even though we’ve told her, she still decided to marry him and put up with it.

Sometimes people in unhealthy relationships don’t hear this, even thought hey should remove themselves from the situation. What would you do if this was someone you cared about?

Men will never understand…

… neither will anyone else.

I guess you can say I’m a very… difficult personality to deal with. I’m glad that the people in my life, remain in my life. I’m just very very hard to please.

I recently got a package from Richard in the mail. Last year, I told him I thought baby hippos are cute. What does he do? He orders a hippo stuffed animal for me… Umm? I didn’t ask for a hippo toy, nor am I like “other girls” that collect stuffed animals. It seems my words or actions seem to make people want to buy me something. This year. What does Richard send me? A towel (with the design of a $100) and a cup that is like a long-extendable camera lens. I think Tiffany likes the gifts more than I do. lol. I don’t know why he sent me this or what his intentions are. I told him thanks. He asks me if I like the gifts. I can’t lie, I don’t! I have no use for it. 

Another example:

  • I was shopping with my mom and I saw something and said “Aww, it’s cute.” When I say it’s cute, it doesn’t necessarily mean I want it. Does it? What does she do? She goes out and buys it for me when I’m not with her. She also did this with a Versace perfume set thing she bought for me, for my birthday. Which is collecting dust, but apparently she uses it.

It’s the thought that counts.

I seriously have no idea what his thoughts were behind these gifts. I need to write a gifting guide for me. I hate getting gifts that I will not use or I don’t need. And my thoughts? It’s clutter.

I guess I just need to work on being more appreciative. But seriously when I say I don’t want anything, don’t get me anything. I can’t even make a decision on what I want. When I want something I’ll usually buy it myself. But it comes and goes often.

Anyways, my birthday is in 2 days. My flight is tomorrow!

Stagnant Friendships

I made a big big boo-boo. You know I’ve heard that saying that girls and guys can never be friends, and I always thought… “That’s Impossible!” Okay, it’s true!

I think it was two years ago, my best friend who moved to Texas, posted something onto Facebook and then her friend from Texas added me on FB. I figured, what the hey, I’ll add him as a friend. No intentions of even thinking we’d be more than Facebook friends. He had joined the Navy or something, so I didn’t expect to hear from him anyways.

Anyways, I guess when he got out, he was super super desperate for a GF and he tried it out with my best friend, but she brushed him off. He dated a few other people, or I guess I should say, went on a few dates. Somehow, he ended up messaging me and we were talking… I had no intentions of liking/dating/starting a relationship, but I guess he did!

I booked a trip to visit Texas, which I later cancelled. Part of it was him. He kept telling me, “I can’t wait for us to meet. It’s my dream come true.” Which really scares and intimidates me! Part of it was her. She got a new boyfriend, whom I hear is really unmotivated. She buys him groceries and food. O__O So I just have a feeling I’d be 3rd wheel. She’s a known ditcher (will explain later).  I also cancelled it because I’m really really stressed with school. :\ I’ll use it later on, for something else ;)

But now I’m at the point where he texts or calls me, incessantly. How do I tell him? I’ve expressed that when we first started talking… I wasn’t trying to get a boyfriend and at this point in time, I’m not dating or seeing anyone, but I prefer to be alone. How do you move on from a friendship or relationship that went sour? It’s just at a point where he annoys me! #HELP

Anyways, I have 3 more exams to do. :\ First time this has happened where all exams fell into the same week.

Toodles,

Kimberly

On a side note, is it weird that the guy is now the possessive one and worried about me liking stuff on Instagram/Facebook. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells! (Will explain in the next post).